When you Cross 40 Age

 

1. After spending years loving my parents, siblings, spouse, children, and friends, I’ve finally started loving myself. I’ve begun taking care of my own food, sleep, and daily routine.

2. I’ve realized I’m not “Atlas.” The world doesn’t rest on my shoulders. I’ve stopped picking up every responsibility. I do whatever I can handle with ease, but I no longer try to fix everything. And I don’t refuse work that is doable. I tell my friends too: you can be rich, successful, and beautiful, but in the end, you will still die. If you want to live forever, try to live in people’s memories.

3. I’ve stopped bargaining with vegetable and fruit sellers. A few extra rupees won’t make me poor, but it might help them pay their child’s school fee.

4. I make sure to tip the waiter or mechanic a little extra. That small amount can bring a smile to their face. They work much harder than I do just to survive. And honestly, I could have been in their place too.

5. I’ve stopped telling my father that he repeats his stories. Those stories help him walk through his memories and relive his past. I now feel ashamed for ever reminding him of this.

6. I’ve learned not to correct people even when I know they’re wrong. It’s not my job to make everyone perfect. Everything takes time to settle. Peace is more precious than perfection.

7. I give compliments openly and generously. Compliments lift the mood—not only of the person receiving them but mine too. And a small tip for the one receiving a compliment: never reject it. Just say “thank you.”

8. I’ve stopped stressing over a crease on my shirt or a wrinkle here and there. Personality speaks louder than appearance. Your words and character matter more than clothes or styling.

9. I avoid people who don’t value me because of jealousy, hatred, or prejudice. I know my worth. If someone wants to walk away, I let them go. And if someone wants to come close, my heart and arms are open.

10. When someone uses dirty politics to outrun me in the race for success, I stay calm. I’m not a rat, and I don’t come from a race of rats.

11. I’m learning not to be ashamed of my feelings. My emotions are what make me human. I can love. And love—whether spiritual or romantic—is the fuel that keeps us alive. If you love someone, say it. Whether it’s your Creator, a sacred figure, or someone from the opposite gender.

12. I’ve learned that it’s better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. Ego keeps you alone. Relationships make sure you’re never lonely. If someone takes one step toward me, I’ll take two toward them.

13. I’m learning to live each day as if it’s my last. Because honestly, it could be.

14. I’m doing what makes me happy. I’m responsible for my own joy, and I owe it to myself. Happiness is a choice. You can choose it anytime.

15. Don’t kill your dreams out of fear of society. We won’t get this life again. It’s a one-time journey. But don’t let your desires become wild horses that throw you off balance.

16. Whatever I received in life was my destiny. And whatever didn’t come my way—even with effort—was never meant for me. There’s no point crying over it.

I decided to share this with all my friends. Why wait until we are 60, 70, or 80? We can live like this at any stage of life.

Wishing you all happiness, health, and success.